Love: The Meeting of ‘You’ in ‘Me’ and ‘Me’ in ‘You’

The sky may seem empty, but it is filled with air currents constantly flowing. These currents, though invisible, are what we call wind. When they carry a certain energy and motion, we perceive them as a dynamic force. In the same way, within all living beings, there exists a similar flow, which we, in an emotional sense, call love.

People often misunderstand love as something to possess or desire, reducing it to a selfish pursuit. What most understand as love is not the true essence of love. Instead, they see it as a resource to fuel their own desires.

Love, as an energy, exists in all objects. Every object in the universe interacts through forces of attraction and repulsion, creating what we know as gravitational pull. Magnets, for example, may seem like mere pieces of metal, but they contain energy capable of pulling objects closer or pushing them away. When opposite poles meet, they attract; when like poles meet, they repel.

The same principle applies to human beings. Outwardly, we seem like singular entities, but within us, two forces constantly interact, creating attraction and repulsion. Even our thoughts and emotions are governed by this dynamic duality.

Humans often romanticize love as a serendipitous moment—two people locking eyes, feeling an inexplicable connection, and falling into an emotional bond. However, why do energies behave this way? Why do we, as humans, experience attraction in this manner? This question has intrigued countless sages throughout history, yet it remains challenging to explain in a way everyone can understand.

For instance, a person like Gapdoli may seem like just another individual. As he navigates life’s journey, he experiences the forces of attraction and repulsion with others, eventually meeting someone like Eulsuni. In that moment, their connection pulls them into a state of overwhelming closeness, where they lose sight of the world around them.

When newly married, couples like Gapdoli and Eulsuni often describe their relationship as being “one heart and one body,” completely absorbed in each other. Outsiders may see them as two distinct individuals, but to the couple, they feel inseparable. This happiness stems from the mutual recognition of their existence through the other.

However, over time, hidden aspects of their personalities emerge, leading to conflict. At such moments, the very connection that once brought them joy now causes pain. Gapdoli might think, “I ruined my life because of her,” while Eulsuni might feel, “I wasted my youth on him.” Yet, interestingly, even these moments of conflict can give way to reconciliation, as if the discord never occurred. This is why people say, “Marital fights are like cutting water with a knife.”

The duality within each person is unbreakable. Just as a magnet, when split, creates two new poles of opposite forces, humans also carry both masculine and feminine qualities within themselves. The external search for a partner often reflects an internal longing to reconcile these forces.

To truly understand love, one must recognize the interplay of opposites within themselves. Love is not merely a pursuit of external validation but an internal realization of completeness.

“True love is not found in another but in recognizing the harmony of opposites within yourself.”

By understanding this, you can transcend the cycle of external longing and discover the profound truth of love as a universal force within.